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I have been in many relationships with boys but I vowed to repent. I bump into them occasionally and have to say hi. Am I a sinner?

I have been in relationships with boys for a while but then I stopped talking to them. The problem is that I keep bumping into them everywhere I go. I don't want to talk to them but then they say hi to me. I don't know what to do. I feel so bad for breaking my promise to Allah, but Allah knows what I feel inside. I shake hands then I leave immediately. Am I sinful for doing this?

Answer

Honorable sister,

The matter is not restricted to this extent. The male-female relationship is based on chastity.
Communication between both sexes is allowed if the manners prescribed by shari'ah (Islamic law) are observed and it was for a purpose deemed valid by Islamic law, such as work, study and so forth. If a relationship exceeds these restrictions it becomes prohibited. In Islamic law, a woman is commanded to avoid anything that might make her an object of desire for men, an object for sinful glances and forbidden feelings.

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