My husband abuses me and I feel lik...

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My husband abuses me and I feel like I am losing my faith. Can I take off my hijab?

Question

I am married to an American Muslim man and we live together in the USA. He does not spend on me except that he brings me food and he abuses me. He always threatens me with divorce and thinks low of me because I am barren. I feel that I am a total wreck and I am going through a bad emotional state. I went to a psychiatrist to relieve the pain. I can’t keep up praying all the five daily prayers because the medical treatment I take causes drowsiness and now I want to take off my hijab, would this be considered as a major sin?

Answer


God al Mighty does not cause us to bear more than we can handle and He did not bring us to the world for us to be miserable. Therefore if you are unhappy with your current marriage and find yourself unable to continue this relationship then legally it is permissible for you to seek divorce because you are not obliged to live miserably as if you are in a prison. If your husband is driving you to a miserable state where you need psychological help and you find yourself unable to keep your faith intact, then leaving him and starting a new life is the answer. You have to find your own strength and drag yourself out of this state of feebleness and surrender and instead open up your heart and search for your happiness with eagerness and determination. I would advise you to supplicate to God and seek His guidance to determine whether to continue your marriage should u only feel your comfort there or to leave your husband and seek your happiness somewhere else and rekindle your faith.

As for the daily prayers, there is no legal impediment for you to leave prayers during your state of drowsiness and when you regain your consciousness, you can make up for the missed prayers. As for the hijab, it is a religious obligation on adult Muslim women and you can limit your veil to cover your hair and bosom with no excessiveness or exaggeration. The major sin that you would be committing against yourself is to leave yourself in such state of misery which leads you to the current bad state of psychological trauma and to let your life slip out of your hands. You have to regain control over your life and strengthen yourself through seeking God’s refuge and ask for His support as He is the most generous and caring. We wish you all happiness and goodness in this life and the hereafter.

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